3 – Write:
Keep a journal to record your thoughts and hopefully gain a better understanding of the root of your trauma.
4 – Recheck:
Try to see your behaviors in a new light, and avoid being so hard on yourself. Transform any negative thoughts into positive ones using affirmations and self-love. You’re worth it!
5 – Practice your new way of thinking each day:
You can do this by:
- Being patient with yourself and not expecting change overnight
- Celebrating your small victories, such as setting boundaries or saying ‘no.’
- Letting go of the need to please everyone. Do your best, but never forgo your values to make someone happy.
- Give yourself grace and sit with your feelings. Please don’t feel ashamed for having emotions because it makes you human.
- Practicing mind-management, where you’re aware of how your behaviors affect others and can adjust them accordingly.
Final Thoughts on How Overexplaining Can Signal Childhood Trauma
Hopefully, you now understand why you overexplain and use these tools to correct the behavior. Now, remember that oversharing isn’t always a bad thing; it’s only harmful when you’re trying to overcompensate for something. Or, if you feel anxious in social settings and overexplain to feel adequate, that’s a sign you have some inner healing to do.
Overexplaining doesn’t have to rule your life, though – a qualified therapist or self-help techniques such as this one can help you heal from the past.